The more you follow your own rhythms, using your internal world as your compass, the more you deviate from the norm and live a more thrilling and expansive life. But be on the lookout – your deviations may cause others to trip over their own expectations.
To gain the fabulous benefits of being a deviant, you must be willing to risk upsetting other people’s expectations. If you succumb to other people’s agendas, your navigation will flounder in a fog of confusing motivations and you’ll end up pleasing others first. Then you’re just a hollow robot, plodding around in a circle until you rust to death.
An expectation is not an agreement. Know the difference.
An expectation without an explicit agreement is a land mine waiting to explode. If you land with both feet on someone else’s land mine, so what? They put it there. Let them clean up the mess.
Responsibility for an expectation always rests with its owner.
If the life that rises up – pure and compelling – from within you goes against someone else’s expectations, free yourself from the tangle by asking yourself two questions: Is there an explicit agreement? and Who owns the outraged expectation?
If there’s no explicit agreement being violated and it’s not your expectation that’s blowing up, then proceed along your merry, deviant way. Get used to the idea that it’s impossible to fix other people’s expectations of you. Let them go so you can go.
Remove the shackles. Take the weird road. Claim your inner deviant.
{ PEP TALKS deliver a bracing blast of Grace }
Flickr photo: A New Path, by jurvetson
Further reading: Pep Talk | Defend Your Territory, Crying and Staying