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How to Create Space

puerto abierto, by drusbi

  1. Toss out the unloved and unused
  2. Don’t finish
  3. Put up a temporary wall
  4. Say “I don’t know”
  5. Loosen your grip
  6. Don’t tell anyone where you’re going
  7. Let them talk
  8. Clear the decks
  9. Hire help
  10. Excuse yourself and leave
  11. Expand your view
  12. Put down the sword
  13. Go where you can be anonymous
  14. Wing it
  15. Don’t equate alone with lonely
  16. Eat less
  17. Say “Oh, never mind”
  18. Let go of your secrets
  19. Sit alone in a small boat
  20. Remove whatever’s not you
  21. Lock the door
  22. Rearrange the pieces
  23. Expand your territory
  24. Uncommit
  25. Admit that help is needed
  26. Move as though your joints are oiled
  27. Sequester the shoulds
  28. Go where no one will think to look
  29. Open your arms
  30. Say “No”
  31. Look up
  32. Loosen whatever constricts
  33. Remove distractions
  34. Rebel
  35. Shrug and leave it at that
  36. Close your mouth
  37. Take a wellness day off
  38. Don’t start
  39. Defend your claim
  40. Let someone else be right
  41. Act without approval

Related reading: Giving Up Housework, 20 Ways to Make a Decision, Pep Talk | Wing It

Flickr photo: puertas abiertas, by drusbi

8 Comments

  1. jo martin wrote:

    these are MARVELOUS!

    Am going to print them out, hang them up prominently on bulletin boards around my complex, at the library, at the store: stealth gonzo awareness raising for us all. He**, I may even stand on a corner and hand them out.

    The last one reminds me of one of my favorite quotes: T. Roosevelt: it is often easier to obtain forgiveness than permission.

    OTOH perhaps I should ignore that advice and ask: Grace, you wouldn’t mind if I did that, would you?

    Tuesday, December 8, 2009 at 6:35 am | Permalink
  2. People who read this blog sometimes ask me, “Who’s that Jo? She’s great. She always comments and actually has things to say.” So, even if yours is the only comment that appears with a post, others are reading and noticing and enjoying you as much as I do.

    Of course I don’t mind if you put the list up around (“gonzo awareness raising” is priceless) — maybe with a link to the site in case someone who could use what Highly Sensitive Power offers could find us here. Thank you.

    You make me laugh, Jo. Thanks for that, too.

    Tuesday, December 8, 2009 at 11:23 am | Permalink
  3. jo martin wrote:

    Aw shucks. Thank you (and you and you) for the kind words . . . and of course a link – who could be out there that needs this blog and not even know it until “zap!” there it is!

    Tuesday, December 8, 2009 at 5:25 pm | Permalink
  4. lara wrote:

    I love this post!! of course life gets overwhelming but how wonderful to see so many ways to wipe the slate of our over-stuffed minds clean to make room for what we want in our life.

    Thursday, December 10, 2009 at 2:44 pm | Permalink
  5. Thanks, Lara.

    And thanks for your website – My Story Writer at http://www.mywritingsoftware.com/ – and all it’s great tools and tips about writing and creativity and time management. I’m looking forward to digging in.

    Friday, December 11, 2009 at 12:49 pm | Permalink
  6. Kate wrote:

    Wow! Great post. I especially love #20 Remove whatever’s not you. So often the inauthentic stuff just cramps our lives. I would love to link this at my Writer’s Digest Blog if you don’t mind? :)
    Thank you!

    Friday, December 11, 2009 at 5:24 pm | Permalink
  7. Andrea Ballard wrote:

    “Close your mouth” and “Let someone else be right”…both extremely difficult for me but perfect thoughts to have on hand as I head into two Board meeting/Annual planning sessions next week. Of course, both organizations existed before I joined the Board and will continue long after I leave. I don’t need to run the whole world, do I???
    Grace, thanks for the reality check. I can’t continue to complain about not having time to myself if I keep thinking I am the only person who can fix all the problems.

    Sunday, December 13, 2009 at 8:34 pm | Permalink
  8. As ever, Andrea, you make me laugh along with you. Ain’t it the truth that we try so often to have it both ways. Well, I have zero doubts that you could shape up the world to shiny greatness (and I still want you for my CEO), but that all counts for nothing if you’re a hollow shell.

    This is one of my favourite sayings (which my husband steadfastly refuses to have tatooed onto his forehead to make it handy when I need it): A closed mouth gathers no feet.

    Monday, December 14, 2009 at 1:50 pm | Permalink