Your story file weighs you down when its contents perpetuate a dim view of you. Jettison the pity party going on in that mental drawer. Give the bad endings a makeover and lighten up so you can move forward with more tra-la in your step.
Revise your stories to add swing to your swagger.
Rather than telling yourself you were wrongly dumped by that bastard or that bitch, revise the story and tell yourself a different truth, that the two of you weren’t compatible and it wouldn’t have worked out even if you hadn’t been given the heave-ho. And she didn’t screw up your chances of success when she steamrolled right over you. Nope. You weren’t paying attention and you let things get out of hand, but now you know better. Lesson learned. Hit the ejector button, with vigour.
Resentment is a tale begging to be retold.
Take charge of your archives. Remove the landmines from your memory. And if the prospect of clutter-clearing your deep storage rankles, don’t think of it as forgiving or forgetting. This is between you and you. Open your heart to your own self. Give yourself a lighter, spiffier future.
Veto the dust bunnies. Reclaim a clear mind and a strong heart.
{ PEP TALKS deliver a bracing blast of Grace }
Flickr photo: Broom at the market, by kobylib
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I love these pep talks!
Me too! I feel rather as though I can’t claim responsibility for them, since I request help with what I need and receive a message that I type out. I’m glad they work for you, too.
One of the things I appreciate the most about moving to a new city is that no one knows your story. And it is so easy then to edit it to fit the new life.
For example: Yes, yes I was married; it didn’t work out. Left out: he was abusive, moving closer and closer to physically abusive; he and his friends stalked me, with guns; restraining order never able to be served because his friends/family hid him, and and and . . . so freeing!
And I *love* “veto the dust bunnies” what a great phrase!
So true, Jo. This form of self-reinvention – or maybe self-updating – works on vacations, too. I love to take learning trips and in small groups like that, of people I’ve never met, it’s freeing to only say what I want them to know. No lie, mind you, but present the me that feels the most representative at the time.
P.S. Congratulations on your successful extraction.
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